The Young Woman's Guide Part 2

Female capabilities. Doing every thing in the best possible manner.

Unending progress. Every person and every occupation susceptible of improvement, indefinitely. Doing well what is before us. Anecdote ill.u.s.trative of this principle. Personal duties. Two great cla.s.ses of persons described. Hopes of reaching the ears of the selfish.

I have already said that you are capable of never-ending progress in knowledge and excellence, and that it is alike your interest and your duty to aspire to that perfection for which G.o.d has given you capabilities. The object of the present chapter is to kindle within you a desire to make progress in every thing you do--to go on, as the Scripture expresses it, to perfection.

"Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well," is an old but true maxim. More than even this might be affirmed. Whatever is worth doing at all, is worth doing in the best possible manner. No matter how well you have done the same thing heretofore; no matter how much more perfectly you already do it than your neighbors. You are not to make the past of your own experience, or the present of your neighbor's, the measure of your conduct. The question is--How well can I perform this particular act now?

Perhaps no person who reads these paragraphs, will doubt the truth of the general principle I have laid down. Thus far, it may be said, all seems to be correct. We are, indeed, bound to do every thing we do, to the glory of G.o.d; and he can hardly be glorified in the doing of a thing in a manner which is short of the best in our power.

Yet, when we come to apply the principle, and say in what particulars we should strive to make progress and do better, from day to day, and from hour to hour, (if the thing is to be performed so often,) many an individual will be found, I fear, to stand back; and among those who thus shrink from the just application of admitted principle, will be found not a few who, till now, supposed they had within them a strong desire for perpetual improvement.

It is, my young friends, no _trifling_ matter to have burning within a hearty desire for eternal progress. It is no small thing to do whatever our hands find to do, which it is fit that an intelligent being--one who belongs to the family of Christ--_should_ do, in such a manner that it will contribute to the glory of G.o.d, and the good of mankind.

And yet less than this, as Christians or even as rational and immortal beings, we cannot do. I know, indeed, that many who profess to be the disciples of Christ, actually do less than this. I know there are hundreds and thousands who are called by his worthy name, and who seem to be almost above the liability to do that which could be regarded as positively wrong, who, nevertheless, are very far from striving to do everything which their hands find to do _with all their might_--or, in other words, as well as they possibly can. But it is to be hoped that the standard of Christian character will ere long be much higher than it is now.

It is of far less consequence _what_ we do in the world, my young friends, than how well we do it. There is hardly a useful occupation among us, in which a person may not be eminently serviceable to himself and to mankind. There is hardly one in which we may not constantly improve ourselves. There is hardly one which will not afford us the means and opportunities of improving others. There is hardly an occupation which may not itself be essentially improved.

I do not mean to say there is no choice in occupations, either as regards pleasantness or usefulness. Nor do I mean to say, that neither parents themselves nor their children, are ever to consult their own natural preferences--their own likes and dislikes. All I aim at is, to convince the young--especially the young woman--that the old couplet,

"Honor and shame from no condition rise; Act well your part, there all the honor lies"--

is not so very far from the truth, as many suppose; and that happiness, and even usefulness and excellence, are as little dependent on place and condition, as honor and shame.

A mercantile man with whom I was once acquainted, gave me, in few words, a very important lesson. He said he made it the rule of his life to do, in the best possible manner, whatever at any time seemed, as a subject of duty, to devolve upon him. No matter about his own likes or dislikes--what appeared to be in the course of the dispensations of Providence allotted him for the day, he performed with all his heart.

If he should conclude to pursue his present business for life, as the means of procuring a livelihood, this would be the very best course of preparation: if otherwise, it was the best under the circ.u.mstances; and especially was it the best state of mental and moral discipline with which he could be furnished.

To neglect the business before us because we are unhappy in it, or at least not so happy as we fancy we might be in some other employment, is to oppose the plans of Providence; nay, even to defeat our own purpose.

It is to disqualify ourselves, as fast as we can, for faithfulness, and consequently for usefulness, in the employment we desire, should we ever attain to it. The wisest course is, to do what our hands find before them to do, provided it is lawful to do it at all, with all our might.

The best possible preparation a young woman can have for a sphere of action more congenial to her present feelings, is the one she now occupies. She has, at least, duties to herself to perform. Let these, as they recur, be performed in the best possible manner; and let the utmost effort always be made to perform every thing a little better than ever she performed it before--if it be but the was.h.i.+ng of a few cups, or the making of a bed. What her personal duties are, generally, need not now be said: first, because many of them are obvious secondly, because they will be treated of in their respective places. But it should ever be borne in mind, that there is nothing ever so trifling, which is worth doing at all, that may not be done better and better at every repet.i.tion of the act; and that there is no occupation which may not, in itself, be improved indefinitely.

Rising in the morning, devotion, personal ablutions, dressing, breakfasting, exercise, employments, recreations, dining, conversation, reading, reflection--all these, and a thousand other things which every one, as a general rule, attends to--may be performed in a manner to correspond more and more with the Scripture direction which has been ill.u.s.trated.

There are, in respect to what I am now mentioning, two cla.s.ses of persons in the world--of females as well as males; and they differ from each other as widely, almost, as the world of happiness from the world of misery. One of these cla.s.ses lives to _receive_; is selfish--supremely so. The other lives to _communicate_, more or less--to do good--to make the world around it better. The last cla.s.s is benevolent.

A person of either cla.s.s is not necessarily indolent or inactive; but the end and aim of the labors of one, are _herself_; while the other labors for G.o.d and mankind. The one procures honey from every flower--formed by other hands--but not a flower does she ever raise by the labor of her own hands, if she can possibly avoid it.

The one lives only to enjoy; the other, to be the continual cause of joy, like her Creator. The latter has a source of happiness within; the former depends for her happiness on others. Leave her alone, or amid a frowning or even an indifferent world, and she is miserable.

Would that I could reach the ears of that numerous cla.s.s who are dependent on the world around them for their happiness--who never originated any good, and are becoming more and more useless everyday!

Would that I could make them believe that true happiness is not to be found externally, unless it first exist in their own bosoms! Would that I could convince them that the royal road to happiness--if there be one--is that which has been alluded to in the preceding paragraphs; in making all persons and things around us better--in trans.m.u.ting, as it were, under the influence of the gospel, all coa.r.s.er things around us to "apples of gold in pictures of silver."

I long exceedingly to see our young women filled with the desire of improvement--physical, social, intellectual and moral. I long to see their souls glowing with the desire to go about doing good, like their Lord and Master. Not, indeed, _literally_, as I shall have occasion to say in another place. But I long to have their hearts expand to overflowing with love to the world for whom Christ died; and I wish to have some of the tears of their compa.s.sion fall on those over whom G.o.d has given them an amazing, and often an unlimited influence.

Could I hope to reach a dozen minds, and warm a dozen hearts, which had otherwise remained congealed, or at most received pa.s.sively the little stream of happiness which a naked, external world affords them, without any corresponding efforts to form a world of their own--could I be the means of enkindling in them that love for everlasting progress towards perfection, which is so essential to the world's true happiness and their own--could I thus aid in setting in motion an under-current which should, in due time, restore to us Eden, in all its primitive, unfallen beauty and excellence,--how should I be repaid for these labors!

I will dare to hope for the best. If I have the sacred fire burning in my own bosom, I will hope to be the means of enkindling it in the bosom of a few readers. If my own soul glows with love to a fallen world, I will dare to hope that a few, at least, of those whose souls are more particularly made for love and sympathy, will be led to the same source of blessedness.

CHAPTER V.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE.

Vast extent of the science of self-knowledge. Spurious self knowledge.

Knowledge of our physical frame--its laws and relations. Examples of the need of this knowledge. Instruments of obtaining it. The use of lectures. Study of our peculiarities. Study of mental philosophy. The Bible. How the Bible should be studied.

Self-knowledge is of the utmost importance to every human being. To no person, however, is it more important than to the young woman.

It is the more necessary to urge the importance of self-knowledge, from the fact that it is a species of knowledge which every one claims, and which she would deem it almost a reflection upon her character to be supposed not to possess; while it is that very knowledge of which almost every one, of both s.e.xes, is exceedingly ignorant.

Such an one "understands himself," is deemed quite a compliment among our s.e.x nor is it wholly disregarded by the other. But by this expression is too often meant no more than a knowledge of the petty acts and s.h.i.+fts, and I might say tricks, by means of which men and women contrive to pa.s.s current in the fas.h.i.+onable world. How much this kind of self-acquaintance is worth, is too obvious to need ill.u.s.tration.

I have represented a just self-knowledge as of very great importance; but it is a science of vast extent, as well as of vast importance. A thorough knowledge of one's self includes, first, a knowledge of man in general, in his whole character--compounded as it is--and in all his relations to surrounding beings and things; and, secondly, a knowledge of the peculiarities produced by particular circ.u.mstances, condition, mode of life, education and habits.

She who merely understands all the little arts to which I have alluded, which enable us to pa.s.s current with a fas.h.i.+onable and grossly wicked world, will find her self-knowledge exceedingly small, when she comes to compare it with the standard of self-acquaintance set up by such writers as Mason, Burgh, Watts, &c.; and, above all, when she comes to compare it with the standard of the Bible. How little, nay, how contemptible will all mere worldly arts and s.h.i.+fts appear--things which at most belong to the department of manners--when she comes to understand her three-fold nature, as exhibited by the natural and revealed laws of Jehovah!

The Subjects of Anatomy, Physiology and Hygiene alone--and they teach us little more than the laws and relations of the mere body or sh.e.l.l of the human being--are almost sufficient for the study of a long life; and yet no individual can ever thoroughly understand herself without them: it is impossible. Anatomy shows us the _structure_ of this body, which the Psalmist, long ago, taught us was fearfully and wonderfully made. Physiology teaches us the _laws_ by which the living machine operates--is kept in play for seventy, eighty, or a hundred years; and Hygiene teaches us the _relations_ of the living, moving human body to surrounding beings and objects. This, indeed, is a knowledge which few young women possess; and yet it is a knowledge which no young woman, who would do her utmost in the work of self-education, can dispense with.

She wishes, perhaps, to improve her voice by conversation, reading and singing. But is she qualified to do this in the best possible manner, while she is wholly ignorant of the structure of the lungs, the wind-pipe, and the fauces, as they are called--parts so intimately concerned in the production of voice and speech?

She wishes, perhaps, to develope and invigorate her muscular system in the highest possible degree; but how can she do this, while she knows almost nothing of the nature or power of the muscular fibre?

She wishes to develope and cultivate her intellectual powers; to acquire "firmness of nerve and energy of thought." But how can she do it, if she is ignorant of the situation and functions of the cerebral and nervous system--that wonderful organ of the intellect?

She would train her eye in the best possible manner; but how can she do so, if she is ignorant of the nature and powers of that wonderful little organ? She would educate, properly, all her senses; but how can she do it, without a knowledge of their structure, functions and relations?

Perhaps she would study the philosophy of dress, and of eating and drinking. How can she do so, till she understands, intimately, the relation of the human system to air, heat, the various kinds of food, drink, &c.?

She would know, still further, the relation of body to mind, and of mind to body--of body and mind to spirit, and of spirit to body and mind. She would study the particular effect of one pa.s.sion, or faculty, or affection, upon the body, or upon particular functions of the bodily system--and the more remote or more immediate effects of diseases of a bodily organ on mind and spirit. She must know all this, and a thousand times, yea, ten thousand times as much, before she is qualified to go far in the work of self-knowledge.

But she must go beyond even all this, and study her own peculiarities.

It is not sufficient to understand the general laws and relations of the human economy; she must understand herself in her own individual character--physically, intellectually and morally. She must understand the peculiarities of her physical frame, of her mental structure, and of her spiritual condition--her relation to other spirits, particularly to the Father of spirits.

How amazing and how extensive--I repeat it--the science of self-knowledge! To be perfect in it we need the life of a Methuselah!

But something may be done, even in the short period of seventy years.

And if it be but little that we can do in a life time, this consideration only enhances the value of that little.

Something, I have said, may be done in the short period of seventy years. But I might say more. Something may be done in a single day. And years are made up of days. A little done, every day, amounts to much in a whole year.

Let not the individual despair who can get but one new idea respecting herself, in a day. If she can sit down at quiet evening and say, I know something respecting myself which I did not know last night at this time, let her be a.s.sured the day is not lost. One idea a day is three hundred and sixty-five a year; and three hundred and sixty-five a year, amount, in seventy years, to twenty-five thousand five hundred and fifty. There _are_ those who can hardly be said, at seventy years of age, to have twenty-five thousand five hundred and fifty ideas in their heads.

It is a matter of joy to every friend of self-knowledge, that so many means have been, of late years, devised to facilitate the study of this science. The lectures which have been given to both s.e.xes on the structure, laws and relations of their bodily const.i.tution, and the books which have been written, have made a considerable change in the state of the public sentiment respecting this species of knowledge. For it is not they alone who have heard or read, that have reaped the benefit of hearing and reading on this subject. Many a parent or teacher, aware that such instructions and books were abroad, has been encouraged to the performance of that which she might not have dared to do, had nothing been said or done to encourage her.

Every young woman should, therefore, study these subjects for herself.