Obsessed: America's Food Addiction--and My Own Part 6

-Kathleen Turner Gayle King is another woman who is able to accept herself and her body. She works hard to stay a size 10, and to keep her weight at 162 pounds. At five foot ten, she is the first to admit, "I'm no Skinny Minnie," but she doesn't get upset about it. She'll diet when she has to, and she'll exercise even though she doesn't like it, but she is just not fixated on weight.

Gayle radiates confidence when she walks onto the set of CBS This Morning, and her philosophy on food couldn't be more different from mine. "I've now gotten to the stage in my life that I deny myself nothing," she insists. "I'm not going to not eat bread, or not eat cake, or not eat sweets. I'm not going to live like that. So I eat exactly what I want, and if I fall off the wagon I know how to get myself back on the program, whatever that is."

That's amazing for someone like me to hear, especially when Gayle admits how much she enjoys food. She recalls some time ago being at a hotel and ordering a room service breakfast: scrambled eggs with cheese, bacon (extra crispy), and an order of pancakes. The menu indicated the breakfast came with toast, and when room service asked if she wanted potatoes, she said yes to that, too.

"I was giving the woman the order and she goes, 'For how many?' I was so thrown by the question because I'm thinking this is not a lot of food, that I said, 'Uh, two!'

"So the room service guy comes and brings it, and before he got there I had turned on the water in the shower and I said to the waiter, 'He's taking a shower, you can set it right here.' Then I called out, 'Honey, the food's here!'"

Gayle told this as a funny story, but to me it would just have been humiliating. She also told me about walking into the office of her news director when she was working at WFSB-TV in Hartford. "On the list of things to talk to me about I could see he had written 'Gayle's b.u.t.t.'

"I remember thinking, d.a.m.n, Gayle's b.u.t.t? He says to me, 'On those wide shots if you could just push in, because your b.u.t.t hangs over the chair.' I didn't even have the wherewithal to be offended. I'm like, 'Oh, okay, I'll watch that.' Now-and this comes with age-I know I could say, 'Wait a second. Wait a second.'"

In my own life, I truly love to run, but let's just say working out is not at the top of Gayle's list of favorite things to do. Actually, that's putting it mildly. "I hate exercise, I hate it, hate it, hate it, but I also know that it's necessary. People say, 'Don't you feel so much better after you work out?' Well, actually, no. I just feel that, okay, I did it. I did it, I did it."

I loved Gayle's stories because they told me so much about her. Yes, she does have to be aware of how much she eats, and she needs to push herself to exercise more, even if she doesn't want to. And, yes, there have been times in her life when her weight became a professional issue. She knows she can't ignore it, and she weighs herself once a week, using Jenny Craig, juice cleanses, or her latest discovery, Fresh Diet, a service that she says delivers really fresh, really delicious food to her home every day to shed a few pounds when she needs to.

But she's also okay with who she is, and how she looks. "I think my relations.h.i.+p with food is pretty healthy," she said. "It's a loving relations.h.i.+p, because I really think that eating food, sharing food, cooking food is one of the greatest examples of love."

I really think that eating food, sharing food, cooking food is one of the greatest examples of love.

-Gayle King Because she is comfortable in her own skin, Gayle is also able to let go of the envy that sometimes accompanies insecurity. "There is always going to be somebody who's skinnier, who's richer, who's prettier. I discovered that years ago. Now I can see somebody who's gorgeous and I'm not envious. I'm like, 'Wow, I really admire what you do and who you are.'"

In the end, Kathleen Turner, Gayle King, and others remind me that what really matters is having a healthy mind and body. I'm all for a healthy thin, and I think women have to recognize that we are going to be judged, at least in part, on how we look, whether we like it or not. But some women are content to live with a few extra pounds instead of obsessing about what they eat all the time, and I admire them for it.

I also admire Kate White, who banned diet stories, normally a staple of women's magazines, while she was editor in chief of Cosmopolitan. "I just felt that girls have enough to worry about. Diets don't work. If someone promises you can lose ten pounds in four weeks you're going to lose it, but you're going to gain it back. I felt that it was unfair to women to keep fostering the notion of these quick diets, when really what you need to do is to overhaul your approach to food on more of a long-term basis. I decided if we gave any information about health and food, it would be just smart nutritional information."

Diets don't work. If someone promises you can lose ten pounds in four weeks you're going to lose it, but you're going to gain it back.-Kate White The magazine does provide guidelines for eating smart, and under Kate's watch, Cosmo launched a new feature t.i.tled "Body Love," which is aimed at helping women feel good about their bodies. "That's a lot about celebrating your body and feeling good about it and feeling confident about it," she says.

Oscar-winning actress Jennifer Hudson is another woman who has been able to resist the cultural pressures most of us face. At any weight, she has always managed to maintain a healthy body image. "I remember the first time I was told that I was plus-size, at least in Hollywood terms. I was on the red carpet and the media were asking, 'How do you feel being a plus-size girl?' I looked over my shoulder like, 'Who are you talking to?' because I never saw myself that way."

Coming from Chicago, Jennifer thought of herself as just an average-sized woman. The norms of Los Angeles took her by surprise, but she didn't get thrown by them. "I was maybe a size twelve at the time, and that's pretty good. Where I come from, size is welcome. So I thought, hold on. I have the height of a supermodel, I have lips that people pay for, so why should I feel insecure? I didn't have those insecurities at all."

When she did decide to lose weight with the help of Weight Watchers, she was genuinely surprised by the attention it attracted. "I've had people coming up to me and saying, 'Oh, my G.o.d, you're my inspiration,' and I've thought, people were watching? I didn't realize that until after the fact." Curiously, Jennifer actually felt more pressure after she lost weight because her body began to get so much more attention.

Body image is also a nonissue for comedian Susie Essman. In my next life, I want to be just like her. Why? Because she tells it like it is, whether she's swearing a blue streak on Curb Your Enthusiasm or performing stand-up comedy. She's a woman who really knows her own strength. "As a female comedian, there's this tremendous balance of power and femininity that's very difficult to maintain," Susie explains. "It's a very masculine art form, it's a very aggressive art form, and it's very powerful being up there by yourself onstage. Stand-up is so hard, and I have to be so focused when I'm on stage that I don't have room in my head to think about what I look like while I'm performing." I can't imagine what it would be like to be able to worry only about what comes out of your mouth, not what your body looks like. It just doesn't work that way for most women on television or in show business. I take it for granted that I am always going to be judged partly on what I weigh and how I look.

"It would be a whole different thing if I was just an actress out there in the marketplace," Susie acknowledged. "But I'm a comedian. So it's different. I write everything that I say. I have my own sense of my own power because I'm onstage all the time doing that." Susie understood what it takes for me to get my job done, and I really appreciated that. "Let me tell you something, Mika. You sit up there with Joe and Donny and Barnicle, and you hold your own with them. You should feel pretty d.a.m.n good about that. Because that's a boy's club over there, and it's not easy."

She also reminded me that it takes a lot more to succeed than a good-looking body, helpful though that is. "It's been said that a pretty face is a pa.s.sport," she said, "but it's not. It's a visa, and it runs out fast. Yes, your life is easier when you're attractive; I absolutely believe that. I think things come more easily, whether it's standing in line at the deli or whatever. However, you'd better develop yourself, because there's always going to be somebody prettier, younger, and thinner. Always!"

You'd better develop yourself, because there's always going to be somebody prettier, younger, and thinner. Always!-Susie Essman I know that, of course, but it's not always at the top of my mind when I am wondering how I look to the millions of viewers who are watching me every day. It's a way of thinking that needs to be part of our larger conversation, whether it is taking place in schools, libraries, or community centers, on television, or in political and public health circles. If we are going to get healthier as a nation, we need to think differently about body image, weight, and eating disorders. They are all so closely tied together.

CHAPTER EIGHT.

IT'S WHAT YOU EAT, AND HOW YOU EAT IT MY STORY, WITH NORA EPHRON, LISA POWELL,.

DR. CYNTHIA GEYER, DR. NANCY SNYDERMAN, KATE WHITE,.

DR. DAVID KATZ, DAVID KIRCHHOFF, CHRISTIE HEFNER,.

SENATOR CLAIRE MCCASKILL, FRANK BRUNI, SUSIE ESSMAN,.

JENNIFER HUDSON, BRIAN STELTER, SENATOR KIRSTEN.

GILLIBRAND, PADMA LAKSHMI, CHARLES BARKLEY.

As we were researching this book, Diane and I got an incredible amount of good advice about smart eating from our women friends (we found a few good men with tips, too). I really appreciated hearing fresh ideas about how to get over my obsession with food and weight. Diane, who has run through just about every diet out there, was also open to new ideas about healthy eating. Sharing strategies for losing weight, or maintaining a healthy thin, makes the journey a lot less lonely. True, at the end of the day, each of us makes our own decisions about what we put on our plates, but there's still plenty we can learn from others.

I especially appreciated people who were willing to be blunt with me, just as I had been with Diane. My late friend Nora Ephron was one of those. Never one to mince words, Nora made it clear that she wasn't very happy with how either Diane or I approached food.

Joe and I had gotten to know the screenwriter, film director, and essayist quite well in the last few years. We'd been working on a project together: a romantic comedy, like others that Nora had already made so brilliantly. What we didn't know at the time was that Nora was sick. She was so optimistic about beating leukemia that she kept it from most people.

It is a tribute to Nora and her love of her friends that just weeks before her death she sat down with Diane and me to have a conversation for this book. She was as open and direct as ever. "I'll have what she's having," from Nora's film When Harry Met Sally, may be one of the funniest lines ever delivered in a movie, but in real life our conversation with Nora was not as hilarious.

Nora's fans and friends know what a foodie she was. When I went to Paris a couple of years ago, I got the full Nora treatment. She sent me a file of places to eat and told me what to order when I got there. "I love to eat," she told Diane and me. "I do nothing all day but think about what I am eating at my next two meals." I told Nora I think about food all day, too. But I don't do it with her joyful antic.i.p.ation of wonderful food. Much more often, it is because I am trying desperately to stick with a tightly disciplined diet that often leaves me wanting more, much more, to eat.

"I've been up at night holding my stomach in hunger and crying, trying not to eat," I admitted to Nora. "And when I break down and give in to my cravings, it is not pretty."

"Boy, that's sad. That's so terrible," Nora replied. "Food is one of the great pleasures in my life."

Diane was candid, too, telling Nora how discouraged she had become in recent years about her inability to keep off weight after working so hard to lose it. Nora really drilled into Diane after she acknowledged dropping out of Weight Watchers. "Who told you you could stop?" Nora scolded. "You can't stop; it's like AA." Our conversation took place early in Diane's seventy-five-pound weight-loss challenge, and she got a little defensive, responding, "I never seem to be able to plan what I'm eating. I'm always grabbing something out of the refrigerator or on the run."

Nora would have none of it. "That's just an excuse," she countered. "You say, 'I'm always on the run and I can't plan my meals,' as if we are living in a place where we can't pick up the phone and get anything delivered to us in five minutes that's healthy." I cringed, knowing that Nora was right, but also that it was painful for Diane to hear. "I know how Diane is hurting right now because it is not that easy for her," I told Nora. "Having said that, she has to do this. This she and I have decided."

Nora agreed. "Well, we know it's not easy, but we also know that you can do it, Diane, if you just trust yourself to stay with it. Let's say you made a commitment that you would stay with it for a year. Right? I swear to G.o.d at the end of the year, you will have changed your eating habits."

That's what we are both trying to do, and Canyon Ranch nutritionist Lisa Powell reminded us why it is so important. "The number one complaint in a doctor's office these days is lack of energy," she says. "I don't expect my car to run if it doesn't have the right fuel. How can I expect my body to have energy and to feel good without the right fuel?"

I don't expect my car to run if it doesn't have the right fuel. How can I expect my body to have energy and to feel good without the right fuel?

-Lisa Powell Getting enough sleep is a part of fueling the body properly. Dr. Cynthia Geyer, medical director at Canyon Ranch in Lenox, Ma.s.sachusetts, says that without adequate sleep, we become more stressed and that, in turn, makes good habits harder to sustain. "The very things that you might do to help yourself stay healthy kind of go out the window when you're stressed. You gravitate toward comfort foods; you forego your exercise, because you have to put the pedal to the metal and get your work done; you get sleep deprived." That becomes a vicious circle, Geyer said, and "you're hungrier, more stressed, and more resistant to insulin when you're sleep deprived."

Diane and I are persuaded that whole, fresh food is the fuel that powers us best. Staying away from supermarket and restaurant foods crammed with sugar, fat, and salt is rule number one. Unprocessed food is not always the easiest to get, especially if you eat out a lot, and it can take longer to prepare at home, but it's almost always the best. "There are no bad whole foods," declares NBC News medical editor Nancy Snyderman. "The bad foods are the ones that are manufactured and have words on the labels that you can't p.r.o.nounce. You wouldn't purposefully eat a.r.s.enic. So why would you purposefully eat bad food?"

Beyond an emphasis on whole food, there is no one-size-fits-all diet that will work for everyone. Some people seem to do better increasing their protein and reducing their carbs, while others decide that a vegetarian or vegan diet is the best strategy for them. There are some tried-and-true techniques that help many people, but you'll have to pick and choose the ones that suit your own lifestyle and keep the cravings to a minimum.

For me, healthy eating is a matter of finding equilibrium. The diet that works best for my body seems to be a very careful balance of fat, protein, and carbs. The challenge I face is how to eat enough of the right foods so that I keep hunger at bay and maintain control without giving in to episodes of insane overeating. Kate White described her approach while at Cosmopolitan, which seems sensible to me. "I've really limited the amount of sugar in my diet, and I eat a certain amount of fat and protein. If you sit down to a dinner that involves chicken and cauliflower that has been roasted with some olive oil, and then something else, you're so satisfied that it's really hard to get a craving going."

What you should not do, of course, is latch on to every new food trend, or become a "serial dieter." Jumping from one diet to the next and the next and the next is "magical thinking," says Dr. David Katz. "There is no real magic, and people do actually know that," he told us. But "they turn off their common sense because their common sense tells them, 'The only way I'm going to lick this problem is to figure out how to eat well and be active, and since that's too hard I need an alternative.' They get involved in one boondoggle after another, with the Jiminy Cricket inside their head saying, you know this isn't going to work. But they drown that voice out."

Eventually, we have to start listening to that voice, because reaching and maintaining a healthy weight is a lifelong struggle. Anyone who has ever carried a lot of extra pounds probably has food issues that are likely to keep surfacing, at least from time to time. "This is not what people want to hear, but I strongly believe if you struggle with weight, you will always struggle with weight," said David Kirchhoff of Weight Watchers. "This isn't something you cure after twelve weeks."

I strongly believe if you struggle with weight, you will always struggle with weight. This isn't something you cure after twelve weeks.

-David Kirchhoff Kirchhoff has a term, acting like a dieter, for the short-term approach. "The weight comes off, you look better, you feel better, and you kind of get c.o.c.ky. And you say, 'Awesome. I'm going to go back to my old life' and you regain the weight."

What we need instead is to make lasting changes. Christie Hefner, executive chairman of Canyon Ranch Enterprises, quotes from a line she hears often at the well-known health and wellness spa. "Canyon Ranch has an expression I love," she says. "Diet is a noun, not a verb." In other words, diet is a way of conducting ourselves over a lifetime, not an action to be taken at a given moment.

Missouri Senator Claire McCaskill eventually reached the same conclusion when she committed to losing fifty pounds. "Before, I was losing weight for an event, or I was losing weight for my wedding, or I was losing weight because I had just had a baby, or I was losing weight because I wanted to get into a pair of jeans," she admits. As Claire moved into her late fifties and required knee replacement surgery, her motives changed and she saw weight loss as a path toward "a full and fun and long life. I think it was age and feeling a sense of urgency about my health."

When it comes to deciding what to eat and how to eat it, personal preferences, culture and family, daily routine, and medical history all help define the approach that is best for each of us. Many people need structure to lose weight and keep it off: rules that tell them exactly what they can eat. David Kirchhoff calls it "going on autopilot."

"If you talk to anybody who has successfully lost weight and has kept it off, one of the things that they'll tell you is that, over time, they've learned to develop certain habits," he says. An example is "having the same healthy breakfast over and over again, so that it really doesn't become a decision anymore. You go on autopilot, and those habits allow you to fundamentally s.h.i.+ft from an impulsive eating style to much more of a reliable, healthy eating lifestyle."

But the rules need to be of your own making, and they should make sense for your lifestyle. For example, Nancy Snyderman believes one of the biggest food myths is that you should not eat after 7:00 p.m. "It really doesn't matter, even though I know everyone thinks that's a no-no," she insists. Ultimately, the timing of your meals matters a lot less than what's in them. "Our bodies are a factory and you must run on a debit system. You've got to balance calories in and calories out. People metabolize things differently, diets are different, but at the end of the day, you have to know what you burned, and you've got to figure out what to put in the engine."

For Frank Bruni, learning to control portion size was the key. "I knew that where I'd always gone wrong around food was with kind of compulsive binge eating, and with taking a normal meal and upsizing it out the wazoo," he admits. When he became the Rome bureau chief for the New York Times, he conquered his big appet.i.te by eating like a native.

"Italians eat portions that are much, much, much smaller than ours, and there's no similar embrace of junk food," he recalled. "Their pasta portions-in complete contradiction to the sort of American mythology of the big, big bowl of pasta with all these meatb.a.l.l.s-are very, very restrained, and they just don't eat the volume of food we do."

Small portions, Frank said, "really do tug you into a more restrained place. This whole American fascination with getting more food for your money and that having its own intrinsic value? Italians don't share that. They really don't see that kind of gluttony as something to be embraced."

I asked Nora Ephron about her lifetime eating plan, since she had managed to celebrate the pleasures of food without becoming a slave to them. After gaining what she called "the freshman twenty-two" in college, she had an "aha" moment that set her on a new course. "I went over to see one of my fatter friends because I had a date, and I didn't have anything to wear, because none of my clothes fit me. I put on a pair of her pants and I couldn't zip them up. She started laughing at me in a way that just really p.i.s.sed me off. I had her image in my head for the entire next year as I lost the weight and changed my eating habits forever."

How did she do that?

Long before the Atkins Diet had gained so much attention, Nora's forward-thinking doctor thought that high protein was the way to go. He said, "Protein, protein, protein. Protein burns fat." The same doctor also told her, "After you lose the weight, you have to diet for six more months so that you change your eating habits forever."

Another strategy in the Ephron household, and one that I applaud, is to dedicate your calories to food that tastes good. Nora said one difference she noticed between thin people and people with weight problems is that the folks who struggle with weight "don't know the difference between a piece of cake that is worth eating and a piece of cake that is not worth eating. We call this 'NWE' in our house-not worth eating."

Like Nora, Diane prefers a diet that emphasizes protein, and has in the past managed to lose a lot of weight on Atkins. Although its critics have been legion, a series of studies in recent years seems to vindicate that approach. The Harvard Health Letter called the diet "an antidote to the dumbed-down anti-fat message"1 and recent studies2 funded by the National Inst.i.tutes of Health found that dieters burn more calories and maintain weight loss better with an Atkins-like program.

Susie Essman has taken a slightly different approach. "I've gone Paleo," she told me. The Paleo Diet, also known as the Caveman Diet, is built on a return to the days of our early ancestors. The idea is to give up most foods added since the agricultural revolution of ten thousand years ago, including dairy and grains. The diet is built instead on the traditions of hunter-gatherers and emphasizes fish, pasture-raised meat, vegetables, and fruits.

After thirty years of abstaining from meat, Susie's Paleo Diet has put meat back on her plate, and she says she feels "fantastic." Although Susie doesn't struggle with weight control, she does need to maintain her health and stamina to perform live onstage, and the Paleo approach works for her.

A protein-centered approach is not right for everyone. Christie Hefner is one of many people we talked to who believe the key to maintaining a healthy weight is simply fresh, healthy, and reasonably sized meals. "What we tend to do more than anything else is eat too-large portions and too much protein, as compared to vegetables, fruits, and grains," Christie says. "I haven't eaten red meat since 1974, although I don't believe that it's inherently unhealthy. I eat fish and chicken and a lot of fruit and vegetables and grains."

Christie's diet is built around unprocessed foods, eaten in moderation. "There really aren't any magic bullets," she emphasizes. "On the other hand, it's within all of our grasps to be pretty healthy if we are educated about what to do and are willing to make the effort."

Jennifer Hudson came to the same conclusion. She made a commitment to learning about nutrition after her son, David, was born. "My fiance and I realized we didn't have that education as kids," Jennifer told us. "Food was always put before us and it was 'eat everything on your plate' and all of that. We didn't learn about a healthy lifestyle until we were in our mid-twenties. So we wanted to make sure we set an example for our son. And that's what really kick-started it for me."

Jennifer lost eighty pounds after signing on as a spokesperson for Weight Watchers, and is now the smallest she has ever been as an adult. "One thing Weight Watchers taught me: if you don't eat what you want, then that's when you tend to overeat. Before, I would think, I'm going to deprive myself of eating this, this, this, and this, but that only lasts for so long. Then you're going to go right back into it, and you're going to regain the weight, and you're back at square one. Now I can have cake, I can have pizza, I can have ice cream. But I know how to have it now. I used to order a stack of pancakes; now I have one."

Jennifer says she no longer feels that she is actually dieting. "I look at it now as my lifestyle. It feels like it's a part of me. You have to stick with it, and that's just the life choice that I decided to make."

Several people talked to us about getting someone to hold them accountable for their weight loss. Senator McCaskill is in the public eye anyway, so that made sense to her. "I've had a lot of cruel things said about me," she acknowledges. "You like to think you've heard it all and none of it bothers you, but there have been dozens of times that it's been very hurtful to read online comments where people say, 'She's got six chins,' or 'She might be vice president someday except she's too fat.'"

The senator took time from her heated 2012 reelection campaign to talk to us about the incident that changed her life. It was Mother's Day, and Claire was in her St. Louis home, helping her diabetic mother with her insulin injection. "One of my kids walked into the room and said, 'I better learn how to do this, Mom, because maybe someday I'll be taking care of you like this.'

"It was one of those moments that hits you like a ton of bricks," Claire recalled. "That this isn't about what size you wear. This is about physical health."

This isn't about what size you wear. This is about physical health.-Senator Claire McCaskill Soon after, the senator embarked on a weight-loss journey that she shared with eighty thousand followers on Twitter. "I knew my weight and my appearance are part of the public domain anyway, so if I was looking for accountability, then it seemed to me it would make sense to turn to the public." One McCaskill tweet: I'M TIRED OF LOOKING AND FEELING FAT. MAYBE TALKING ABOUT IT PUBLICLY WILL KEEP ME ON TRACK AS I TRY TO BE MORE DISCIPLINED. OFF TO THE GYM.

I thought Claire was very courageous to put herself out there like that. She explained why she had. "I knew that if I went back to my old lifestyle, not only would I be accountable to myself for my own health, but I was going to be putting my public failure out there for everyone to judge." Besides, she got a lot of encouraging feedback from her tweets. "Thank goodness-for every hater out there, there are multiples of people who lifted me up and said, 'You go, girl' and 'You can do this.' So it turned out to be the right call."

Senator McCaskill called on weight-loss coach Charles D'Angelo to devise a simple eating plan for her. "I didn't do anything other than eat good food and use the treadmill five days a week," she says. Her mornings begin with a healthy fruit protein shake. Lunch is typically a Subway turkey sandwich or a salad with some kind of protein on it. At night she has a piece of fish or chicken with some green vegetables, and a fruit popsicle before bedtime. She snacks on raw almonds, and one night a week adds a few more carbs to her dinner meal "to give me a little boost."

The biggest change and the senator's best piece of advice: eat regularly throughout the day. "I was in the habit of thinking, oh, I've been good all day, I have eaten hardly anything. It's five o'clock, I'll go to this function and n.o.body will even notice if I'm having the raw vegetables with fifteen hundred calories of ranch dressing on them. Or I would decide, a pizza is okay because I haven't eaten all day."

I notice a big difference between Claire's first appearances on Morning Joe and how she acts now when she walks into the studio. In the early days, I thought she seemed tentative, almost defeated. "You know what I used to think about when I arrived?" Claire explained to me recently. "I was wondering which chair they're going to put me in, and then I'm thinking in my head where the camera angle is, because I want to make sure that my back shot won't reveal that roll of fat when I turn. Now I just think, oh, good, I get to come in and shoot the breeze with Joe and Mika!"

Like Claire, New York Times reporter Brian Stelter turned to Twitter to support his weight loss efforts, sending a tweet every time he ate something. For a media reporter, it just came naturally to alert the world about what was going on. "On the days where I ate what I should eat, I felt really good tweeting my diet. On the days where I made mistakes, I felt bad about it. That told me that the Twitter diet was working."

Sometimes it seemed like the "humiliation diet," Brian admitted. "On the days where I'd have two or three cookies, I was truly embarra.s.sed to tweet it, and I would write that on my Twitter feed. I would say how embarra.s.sed I was. But on the days where I was doing the right thing, which was basically just this fifteen-hundred-calorie-a-day diet, I couldn't wait to tweet it."

Nearly three thousand people followed his Twitter feed and encouraged him as he lost a hundred pounds. One California woman, whom Brian has never met, cheered him and scolded him-and lost fifty pounds of her own along the way. "People celebrated when I ate right and chastised me when I ate wrong. I needed to talk about what I was trying to do, and talk about my feelings about the food I was eating," he said. "It was helpful to talk about my suspicion that some of this food had an addictive quality to it, to make sure I wasn't the only one that felt that way. It's surprising how social the weight loss effort is for me."

People celebrated when I ate right and chastised me when I ate wrong. I needed to talk about what I was trying to do, and talk about my feelings about the food I was eating.-Brian Stelter While Senator McCaskill and Brian Stelter put their struggles out to the public, Jennifer Hudson and New York Senator Kirsten Gillibrand kept them within the family. That proved to be another terrific way to get some support. When Jennifer started on her weight-loss journey, so did more than a hundred of her relatives. Together, they lost almost fourteen hundred pounds! One of her techniques was to write down everything she ate so that she was fully aware of what was going into her body.

Senator Gillibrand did much the same thing, keeping a food journal that she shared with her sister, who was also trying to shed pounds. The senator lost her baby weight, dropping from a size 16 to a size 6.

With my incredibly hectic schedule, I know as well as anyone how hard it can be to eat well at work and on the road. But Padma Lakshmi might have me beat in the challenge department, because as a host of Top Chef, she gains weight every single television season. Known as the first Indian American supermodel earlier in her career, Padma is also a cookbook author and an actress.

Diane caught up with her during a break in taping her reality TV show, which pits chefs against one another in culinary challenges. "I need to taste everything that these chefs have put their hearts and souls into in order to render a judgment that's fair," Padma says. "I have to eat whatever is put in front of me, so I put on about ten to fifteen pounds a season." It usually takes her about six to eight weeks to gain that weight. "I have a very talented wardrobe stylist who gives me clothes in two to three different sizes, so often I will go from a two to a six or a six to a ten."

While she is on the set, Padma says, "I don't think about calories. I enjoy the food. Then, when the show's finished, that's the time to concentrate on my health and the way I look. I don't try and do those at the same time, because it's impossible. You'll drive yourself crazy."

So what's her recipe for getting slim when it's over? "Make sure there's a balance in your life. If I've just spent six or eight weeks on the show, eating everything under the sun, the next six or eight weeks will be about really cutting back on fried foods, on cheese, on red meat, on alcohol, on starches, on processed foods. Eating healthy is like a bank account. If you spend your calories by eating a lot of them in one case, then you have to save your calories later by eating better. You know, it's just basic arithmetic."

Padma is one more voice touting the benefits of whole food. "Eating food as close to how nature made it is always a good idea. The more you process food, the less nutrients you get, the less natural inherent flavor you get from that food; to me, the less pleasure you get. If I eat a cuc.u.mber, I want to taste that beautiful green herbaceous flavor that smacks of the garden. If you eat processed food you don't really understand food, and I don't think you understand what you're putting into your body. And I want to know what I put into my body. My body has to last, you know?"

I want to know what I put into my body. My body has to last.-Padma Lakshmi Charles Barkley, the outstanding NBA power forward known as the "Round Mound of Rebound," offered us a story about the influence of culture on eating habits and how we can model change for others. Barkley always cut a bulky figure on the court, but at six foot six and 250 pounds, he played brilliantly. After he retired in 2000, Barkley gained about a hundred pounds. "I had gotten up to three hundred and fifty pounds, and my doctor said, 'There are three things that are going to happen. You're going to die, you're going to have a stroke, or you're going to have diabetes.'

"I said, 'I'm going to go out on a limb. None of those three are good.'"

His biggest mistake was continuing to eat during retirement as he had during his playing days. "I played in the NBA for sixteen years and I never worried about my weight. You're training for a few hours every day and you're playing games, so you can eat whatever you want." Weight Watchers came calling, asking Charles to be the spokesperson for its "Lose Like a Man" campaign. Charles agreed, but quickly came to his first hurdle: learning to eat fruits and vegetables. He had never eaten much of either one, unless he was ordering potatoes or corn.

Learning to eat pears or apples instead of potato chips was a major lifestyle change. But it's something he decided to do, not only for his own health but to serve as a role model for his home state of Alabama, which has the nation's fourth-highest obesity rate, and for the African American community. "We've got too many fat black people out there, plain and simple. We're trying to reach that demographic," says Charles. "Black people eat way too much fried food, first and foremost. I don't think we do enough exercise, to be honest with you. But the fried stuff is really the biggest problem."

The Charles Barkley Foundation hosts an annual gala in Alabama every year to raise money for health facilities for minority patients. "We started six or seven years ago, and we raised about twenty million dollars," he says. "We just opened up our first free clinic last year, actually, and my goal is to open up twenty of them around the state." The event organizer called him about the menu for the dinner they were planning for a thousand guests. "She complained, 'Even the vegetables are deep fried down here,' and I told her, 'Welcome to my world.'"

The dinner menu is starting to change, part of Charles' effort to approach overweight and obesity not just as an individual issue, but as a community issue. I really applaud his efforts, and I expect that he'll look great in the smaller tuxedo he'll be wearing at his foundation's next black tie fund-raiser.

Whether it is protein or Paleo, vegan or vegetarian, the emphasis on minimally processed whole foods seems to be a core component of maintaining a healthy weight. Structure and accountability are important, too, but you'll have to design a strategy that suits you: there is no single approach for everyone. Weight Watchers is "diet agnostic," says David Kirchhoff. "What we really provide is support to help people change their habits and their outlook," rather than advocating for one particular food or system over another.

What we really provide is support to help people change their habits and their outlook.

-David Kirchhoff As usual, Nora Ephron offered the wisest bottom line: It's one of the great pa.s.sages to adulthood when you understand that if food means something to you, you have to watch what you eat every single day.