How Can I Forgive You? - BestLightNovel.com
You’re reading novel How Can I Forgive You? Part 17 online at BestLightNovel.com. Please use the follow button to get notification about the latest chapter next time when you visit BestLightNovel.com. Use F11 button to read novel in full-screen(PC only). Drop by anytime you want to read free – fast – latest novel. It’s great if you could leave a comment, share your opinion about the new chapters, new novel with others on the internet. We’ll do our best to bring you the finest, latest novel everyday. Enjoy
25. Beck, Rush, Shaw, and Emery (1979), pp. 16365.
26. Rabbi Israel Stein, personal communication.
27. Mauger, Perry, Freedman, Grove, McBride, and McKinney (1992).
28. Lerner (2001), p. 198.
29. Enright (1996) poses and then disputes this a.s.sumption, in Schimmel (2002) , p. 124.
30. Frady (2002), reviewed by Scott Malcomson (2002), p. 10.
31. Ibid.
32. Schimmel (2002), pp. 12425.
33. Enright (1996), p. 116.
34. From the film Gandhi, Gandhi, cited in Karen (2001), p. 223. cited in Karen (2001), p. 223.
35. Ibid.
36. Spring (1997), p. 244.
What You, the Hurt Party, Must Do to Grant Genuine Forgiveness 37. Kohlberg (1976).
38. Enright and the Human Development Study Group (1991), p. 138.
39. Flanigan (1996), p. 76.
40. Smedes (1996), p. 167.
41. Nietzsche (1887).
42. Boszormenyi-Nagy (1987), in Patton (2000), p. 287.
43. Schnur (2001), p. 18.
44. Herman (2000) in American Prospect, American Prospect, cited in Kushner (2001), p. 74. cited in Kushner (2001), p. 74.
45. Kushner (2001), pp. 7980.
46. Johnson (2002), p. 121.
47. Patton (2000), p. 288.
48. Johnson, Makinen, and Millikin (2001), p. 147.
49. Gottman and Silver (1999), p. 161.
50. Malcolm and Greenberg (2000), p. 180.
51. Bachelard, quoted in Metzger (1992).
52. Egbert, Batt.i.t, Welch, and Bartlett (1964), in Benson (1966), p. 36.
53. People are more likely to forgive an offender who offers a sincere apology and tries to make up for the harm he caused (Exline and Baumeis-234
Notes.
ter, 2000, p. 137). They're also more likely to forgive if they feel empathy for him and are in a committed relations.h.i.+p with him (McCullough, Rachal, Sandage, Worthington, Brown, and Hight, 1998).
APPENDIX.
1. Young, Klosko, and Weishaar (2003), p. 9. I am indebted to Dr. Jeffrey Young for allowing me to apply his schema therapy model to the forgiveness process, and for his invaluable a.s.sistance with this ma.n.u.script.
2. Young and Klosko (1993), pp. 16162.
3. Ibid., p. 163.
Bibliography Abrahms, Janis (Spring), and Spring, Michael. (1989). The flip-flop factor.
ICTN 5(10), 1, 78. 5(10), 1, 78.
Ahrons, Constance. (1998). The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart. Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart. New York: HarperCollins. New York: HarperCollins.
American Psychiatric a.s.sociation. (2000). Quick Reference to the Diagnostic Quick Reference to the Diagnostic Criteria from DSM-IV-TR. Criteria from DSM-IV-TR. Was.h.i.+ngton, DC: American Psychiatric a.s.sociation. Was.h.i.+ngton, DC: American Psychiatric a.s.sociation.
Bachelard, Gaston. (1992). In Deena Metzger (Ed.), Writing for Your Life: Writing for Your Life: A Guide and Companion to the Inner Worlds. A Guide and Companion to the Inner Worlds. New York: Harper San Francisco. New York: Harper San Francisco.
Ba.s.s, Ellen, and Davis, Laura. (1994). The Courage to Heal: A Guide for The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child s.e.xual Abuse. Women Survivors of Child s.e.xual Abuse. New York: HarperPerennial. New York: HarperPerennial.
Baumeister, Roy F. (1997). Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty. Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty. New York: Freeman. New York: Freeman.
Beck, Aaron T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. New York: International Universities Press. New York: International Universities Press.
Beck, Aaron T. (1999). Prisoners of Hate: The Cognitive Basis of Anger, Hostility, and Violence. Prisoners of Hate: The Cognitive Basis of Anger, Hostility, and Violence. New York: Perennial. New York: Perennial.
Beck, Aaron T., Rush, A. John, Shaw, Brian F., and Emery, Gary. (1979).
Cognitive Therapy of Depression. New York: Guilford. New York: Guilford.
Beck, Judith S. (1995). Cognitive Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Cognitive Therapy: Basics and Beyond. New York: Guilford. New York: Guilford.
Benson, Herbert. (1975). The Relaxation Response. The Relaxation Response. New York: William Morrow. New York: William Morrow.
236.
Bibliography Benson, Herbert. (1966). Timeless Healing: The Power of Biology and Belief. Timeless Healing: The Power of Biology and Belief.
New York: Simon and Schuster/Fireside.
Benton, Sue, and Denbaum, Drew. (2001). Chi Fitness: A Workout for Body, Chi Fitness: A Workout for Body, Mind, and Spirit. Mind, and Spirit. New York: Cliff Street. New York: Cliff Street.
Boszormenyi-Nagy, Ivan. (1987). Foundations of Contextual Therapy: Collected Papers of Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, M.D. Foundations of Contextual Therapy: Collected Papers of Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, M.D. New York: Brunner/Mazel. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
Boszormenyi-Nagy, Ivan, and Krasner, Barbara R. (1986). Between Give Between Give and Take: A Clinical Guide to Contextual Therapy. and Take: A Clinical Guide to Contextual Therapy. New York: Brunner/Mazel. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
Bowen, Murray. (1978). On the differentiation of a self. In Family Therapy Family Therapy in Clinical Practice in Clinical Practice (pp. 467528). New York: Aronson. (pp. 467528). New York: Aronson.
Brown, Lyn M., and Gilligan, Carol. (1992). Meeting at the Crossroads: The Meeting at the Crossroads: The Landmark Book about the Turning Points in Girls' and Women's Lives. Landmark Book about the Turning Points in Girls' and Women's Lives.
New York: Ballantine.
Burns, D. D. (1999). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. New York: Avon. New York: Avon.
Casarjian, Robin. (1992). Forgiveness: A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart. Forgiveness: A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart.
New York: Bantam.
DiBlasio, Frederick A. (2000, summer). Decision-based forgiveness treatment in cases of marital infidelity. Psychotherapy Psychotherapy 37(2), 149158. 37(2), 149158.
Efran, Jay S., Lukens, M. D., and Lukens, R. J. (1990). Language, Structure, Language, Structure, and Change: Frameworks of meaning in psychotherapy. and Change: Frameworks of meaning in psychotherapy. New York: Norton. New York: Norton.
Egbert, L. D., Batt.i.t, G. E., Welch, C. E., and Bartlett, M. K. (1964).
Reduction of postoperative pain by encouragement and instruction of patients. New England Journal of Medicine New England Journal of Medicine 270, 825827. 270, 825827.
Ellis, Albert, and Grieger, Russell. (1977). RET: Handbook of Rational-Emotive Therapy. RET: Handbook of Rational-Emotive Therapy. New York: Springer. New York: Springer.
Ellis, Albert, and Harper, Robert A. (1975). A New Guide to Rational Living. A New Guide to Rational Living. New York: Wils.h.i.+re. New York: Wils.h.i.+re.
Emmons, Robert A. (2000). Personality and forgiveness. In M. E. McCullough, K. I. Pargament, and C. E. Th.o.r.esen (Eds.), Forgiveness: Theory, Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice Research, and Practice (pp. 156175). New York: Guilford. (pp. 156175). New York: Guilford.
Bibliography 237.
Engel, Beverly. (2001). The Power of Apology: Healing Steps to Transform All The Power of Apology: Healing Steps to Transform All Your Relations.h.i.+ps. Your Relations.h.i.+ps. New York: Wiley. New York: Wiley.
Engel, Beverly (2002, July/August). Making amends. Psychology Today, Psychology Today, 40, 42. 40, 42.
Enright, Robert D., and the Human Development Study Group. (1996, January). Counseling within the forgiveness triad: On forgiving, receiving forgiveness, and self- forgiveness. Counseling and Values Counseling and Values 40, 107126. 40, 107126.
Enright, Robert D., and the Human Development Study Group. (1991).
The moral development of forgiveness. In W. Kurtines and J. Gewirtz (Eds.), Handbook of Moral Behavior and Development, Handbook of Moral Behavior and Development, 1 (pp. 123152). 1 (pp. 123152).
Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.
Enright, Robert D., and Reed, Gayle. (May 18, 2002). A Process Model of Forgiving. www.forgiveness-inst.i.tute.org www.forgiveness-inst.i.tute.org.
Enright, Robert D., Rique, Julio, and Coyle, Catherine T. (2000, September). The Enright Forgiveness Inventory User's Manual. The Enright Forgiveness Inventory User's Manual. Madison, WI: International Forgiveness Inst.i.tute. Madison, WI: International Forgiveness Inst.i.tute.
Estes, Clarissa Pinkola. (1992). Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype. and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype. New York: Ballantine. New York: Ballantine.
Exline, Julie J., and Baumeister, Roy F. (2000). Expressing forgiveness and repentance. In M. E. McCullough, K. I. Pargament, and C. E. Th.o.r.esen (Eds.), Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice (pp. 133155). (pp. 133155).
New York: Guilford.
Fenton, J. C. (1963). The Gospel of St. Matthew: The Pelican New Testament The Gospel of St. Matthew: The Pelican New Testament Commentaries. Commentaries. New York: Penguin. New York: Penguin.
Fisher, Ian. (2001, July 1). "At site of ma.s.sacre, Polish leader asks Jews for forgiveness." New York Times International, New York Times International, 1, 4. 1, 4.
Flanigan, Beverly. (1992). Forgiving the Unforgivable: Overcoming the Bitter Forgiving the Unforgivable: Overcoming the Bitter Legacy of Intimate Wounds. Legacy of Intimate Wounds. New York: Macmillan. New York: Macmillan.
Flanigan, Beverly. (1996). Forgiving Yourself: A Step-by-Step Guide to Making Peace with Your Mistakes and Getting On with Your Life. Forgiving Yourself: A Step-by-Step Guide to Making Peace with Your Mistakes and Getting On with Your Life. New York: Macmillan. New York: Macmillan.
Frady, Marshall. (2002). Martin Luther King, Jr. Martin Luther King, Jr. New York: Lipper/Viking. New York: Lipper/Viking.
Frankl, Viktor E. (1997). Man's Search for Meaning. Man's Search for Meaning. New York: Was.h.i.+ngton Square. New York: Was.h.i.+ngton Square.
238.
Bibliography Friedman, M., and Rosenman, R. H. (1974). Type A Behavior and Your Type A Behavior and Your Heart. Heart. New York: Ballantine. New York: Ballantine.
Fromm, Erich. (1963). The Art of Loving. The Art of Loving. New York: Bantam. New York: Bantam.
Gilligan, Carol, and Brown, Lyn M. (1992). Meeting at the Crossroads: Meeting at the Crossroads: Women's Psychology and Girls' Development. Women's Psychology and Girls' Development. Cambridge: Harvard University Press. Cambridge: Harvard University Press.
Gordon, Kristina C., Baucom, Donald H., and Snyder, Douglas K. (2000).
The use of forgiveness in marital therapy. In M. E. McCullough, K. I.
Pargament, and C. E. Th.o.r.esen (Eds.), Forgiveness: Theory, Research, Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice and Practice (pp. 203227). New York: Guilford. (pp. 203227). New York: Guilford.
Gottman, John. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. New York: Simon and Schuster. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Gottman, John M., and Nan Silver. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown/Three Rivers. New York: Crown/Three Rivers.
Greenberg, Leslie S., Watson, J.C., and Lietaer, G. (1998). Handbook of Handbook of Experiential Psychotherapy. Experiential Psychotherapy. New York: Guilford. New York: Guilford.
Greenberger, Dennis, and Padesky, Christine A. (1995). Mind Over Mood: Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think. Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think. New York: Guilford. New York: Guilford.
Guilmartin, Nance. (2002). Healing Conversations: What to Say When You Healing Conversations: What to Say When You Don't Know What to Say. Don't Know What to Say. New York: Wiley/Jossey-Ba.s.s. New York: Wiley/Jossey-Ba.s.s.
