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worthwhile one, you will definitely face some challenges.
The devil will forcefully come after your dream to make sure that it does not see the light of day. He will fight you with all of his power; who knows, maybe this is the reason he fought you
tooth and nail to make sure you do not graduate with a first-cla.s.s
degree, so as to discourage you from pursuing your dreams. But
never give him a chance. Do not allow him to abort that great
dream.
Aborted dreams are dreams, which are allowed to die before
their day of accomplishment. They are plans that are not
pursued, goals that are not worked on, desires that never saw the
light of day, hopes that are dashed and aims that are deserted.
Aborted dreams are abandoned dreams. Their abandonment is
orchestrated by the evil one. He is the chief abortionist, carrying
out illegal abortions of dreams. He basically does three things to
dreams - he steals, he kills or he destroys them. So says the Holy
Book. He uses different weapons to achieve this. These weapons
are discussed in this chapter.
When you launch out to fulfill your dream, you will surely
encounter many circ.u.mstances, some of which may seem to task
you beyond your own strength. Some of them might be worse
than what you experienced when you graduated with an
unfavorably degree. But be sure of this: The grace upon you to
fulfill your dream is much more than the force with which the
enemy seeks to destroy it. It is an undeniable fact that every
dreamer will certainly be tempted with diverse challenges, but
victory lies ahead of each temptation if such can persist.
If the enemy is after your dream, needless to say, it is because he
knows there is a golden future at the end of the tunnel of the
dream. The devil is not happy seeing your dreams fulfilled. He is
more interested in seeing those dreams aborted. So he will place
some hurdles along your path in life. He will not bring you to the
wall of Jericho unless he is convinced you are going to a land
flowing with milk and honey. He will not bring you to the Red
Sea unless he knows you are going to the Promise Land. If he
starts to run wild about your dream, it is simply because he has
seen something unusually great about it.
NO ONE CAN STOP YOUR DREAM
No one can stop you from achieving your dream. Only you can.
Even the devil cannot destroy your dream unless you permit
him. So, do not allow him whenever he comes. You have
allowed him once, as a student on campus, and you know what
this caused you. This is why you are reading this book. If you
had graduated with a first-cla.s.s or a better grade, you probably
would have neglected this book the first time you saw the t.i.tle.
Do not allow him access to your dreams again. Keep your dream
often within your heart, far away from his reach. You cannot
afford the losses that an aborted dream will create again.
The devil does not necessarily hate your face, he hates your
dream. He does not hate your name, your education, your
qualification or your intelligence. What he hates is your purpose
for desiring to be alive, and most times, this purpose is
encapsulated in your dream, and so he will do everything
possible to make that dream impossible. Do not give him room.
Keep your dream alive by all means.
Whatever the devil tells you about your dream is the exact
opposite of the truth. He does not know G.o.d's detailed plan for
either your life or your dream. He only tells lies. Do not listen to
him. Do not give him attention. If you give him attention he will
give you instructions. If you give him more attention, he will
give you more directions.
He is like a barking dog. Every normal man ignores a barking
dog; it is normal for a dog to bark. The moment it seizes to bark, it
fails in its first responsibility as a dog. That is also the way to treat
the devil. When he barks because of your dream, ignore him. It is
the only way to make him go crazy, keep him silent and make
him walk out of your way.
Some of the hurdles he will place on your path to make you
discard that dream of living a first-cla.s.s life are discussed below:
PROBLEMS AND CHALLENGES
Dreamers are successful problem solvers. Great dreams are
often times disguised as impossible situations and unsolvable
problems. The situation you find yourself in today, graduating
with a third-cla.s.s, may be the first impede you will have to
overcome in order to advance your dream.
Diverse negative situations and circ.u.mstances will try to beat
down your dreams. Setbacks will come to shrink your dream.
But do not just throw away the idea because of the problems and
challenges you encounter. There is no dream without a problem
and there is no problem without at least a solution.
Never run away from the challenges of life. Neither should you
be intimidated by them; meet them head on. You have all it takes
to outlive every storm you come across in the pursuit of your
dream; it is all wired up in your system. Simply step beyond your
current limitations and just walk over the prevalent challenges.
It is time to stop looking for victories without battles; you will
never find any. If you are expecting a problem-free dream, then
you are pursuing a profit-free dream. A stressless dream is a
strengthless dream. Every road, major or minor, has bus stops,
and no two bus stops are exactly alike. Some are very
comfortable, some are less comfortable, and there are others that
are not comfortable at all. Such is life. There will always be bus
stops of trials and temptations on the path to your dream. Some
may be more comfortable than others and some others may just
be unbearable. You however do not end your journey abruptly at
a bus station simply because it either is more comfortable or less
pleasurable; you press forward until you get to your destination.
Challenges of life are not strong enough to determine when you
take your hands off your dream. Everybody knows this: No man
makes history without having overcome difficulties. Hence the
saying 'every star has some scars'. So, do not be disturbed when
they come. They are for your lifting. Before Joseph got to the
palace, he pa.s.sed through the pit and the prison. If you must get
to the palace of fulfillment, you also need to go through the pit
and the prison of challenges.
At such times, let your dream be your motivation, not the storm
you are pa.s.sing through. Adversities, most times, may be
blessings in disguise. Your graduating with a third-cla.s.s has its
own benefits if you look at it closely. You only need to think well
to discover this.
Every problem you face in the course of pursuing your dream is
a catalyst that speeds up the chemical reaction. It launches you
faster into your destiny. Every challenge you face has its own
specific ways of being solved. Activate your mind; the solution
is nowhere else but there.
Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. Find it out.
Solutions to problems are pre-planned by G.o.d before the
problem arises. Think it through. If you can't think it through,
you will sink in deeper. Stop all complaints and find the solution.
You are more than that challenge you are facing now. Do not let it
trap you; there is a way out of it for you. The reason the situation
has not changed is because you have not addressed it. Take time
to a.n.a.lyze and address it critically. Do not just diagnose the
problems; propose solutions and tackle them. Do not hope the
problem will take care of itself. No, it won't. You will have to.
Challenges do not get solved by leaving them unattended to; that
way, they grow stronger over time. Do something on time. A
st.i.tch in time saves nine.
There are three major ways by which you can tackle such
problems. Firstly, you can try to avoid them and continue with
your dream in their presence without minding their existence.
You may not be able to overcome them, but you can control your
reactions to them. Render them insignificant by your att.i.tude to
them. Do not give them the attention they demand. As long as
they are not maximally distracting you and slowing down your
progress, you can still make the necessary progress despite their
presence.
Secondly, if it is so unavoidable that it stands tall in your path of
progression and you just have to face it before you can take any
significant step further, then sit down and find a lasting solution
to it before you continue. Every problem has its own solution
within it, if you can spend time with it long enough, you will
discover a way out.
Thirdly, if after all you have tried, the problem still defies your
series of solutions and persists, then you can try to control it.
When you cannot completely eliminate the problem, reduce its
effect on your progress, then shut your eyes to it. You cannot
direct the wind on the sea, but you can adjust the sails of your
boat. Play along with the problem, but let it be subjected to you.
Be in charge. Determine the extent of its effect on your dream
and try to minimize it so that it will not have much impact on
your dream.
If you forget everything discussed so far, do not forget this:
whatever difficulty you encounter in the journey from a third
cla.s.s personality to a first cla.s.s life, there is a way out of it if you
can think. Tackle the problem. If you only sit down and watch, it
will soon become bigger than it is today, and will soon get out of
hand.
Problems do not get solved by neglecting them, they become
bigger. They only get solved by attending to them on time.
Make this a rule: Every small problem must be handled on time
before it grows out of hand.
PROCRASTINATION
Procrastination is the enemy's number one strategy. It is an
extremely harmful weapon in the camp of the enemy. After
being applied consistently over time, it weakens a man's will,
destroys his interest, damages his zeal and finally ends up
distorting his belief in himself. It hinders the fulfillment of
brilliant dreams and limits his captive's achievement.
Procrastination, simply put, means, to postpone to other times
what can be done now. When a dreamer begins to procrastinate,
his dream begins to die. Many third-cla.s.s students have
plausible ideas and good plans but have not carried out any of
them because they constantly procrastinate.
Procrastination hinders one from taking any important step
towards the fulfillment of his dream. "You can't start now", it
tells him. "Why not start some other time? Must you start now?
Why not later? Probably when you are a bit older, you know you
are still young. Or when you are a bit richer, or when you have
done your Post Graduate Diploma, or when you have done your
Masters so as to make up for your third cla.s.s, or when you finally
travel out of this country, or when you are married and you have
support from your wife, or when your father dies and you take
over his a.s.sets/companies".
If you listen to its voice, you are doomed. Graduates who have
handed the direction of their lives into the hands of
procrastination have ever lived to regret their action.
Live by this principle: Never wait to do tomorrow what you need
to do today. There may always not be enough time for everything
you want to do, but there definitely will always be enough time
for what you need to do.
Start planning now on how to accomplish your dream, and do not
just plan, start taking steps on what you have planned. A firstcla.s.s
graduate may procrastinate actions on his dreams, but you
should not compare yourself with him. You do not want to be
reminded again that he probably has better options available to
him than you do and can allow some to slip away. Worst case, if
he cannot pull his dream through again, he simply dusts his
certificate and apply for a lucrative job somewhere. As a thirdcla.s.s
graduate, you have fewer options and should not jeopardize
any, since you cannot tell, for now, which will hit the jackpot and
bring you fame.
Dreams are like birds; they have wings and can fly. If you
postpone your actions on them, they will soon fly away to
someone else who will make the best use of them.
While in school, when you were supposed to read your books,
you did not read. You postponed your personal study till later
times. You delayed the submission of your a.s.signments, the
preparation for your exams, and postponed every other thing
you can procrastinate. This is what got you to where you are
today - a third-cla.s.s graduate, and in order to move forward from
here, you have to learn how to respond faster to issues,
especially when they are issues that have to do with your life and
destiny. Make up your mind on what you want to do, and do it
NOW.
Always keep a clear deadline in view. This will help you to
achieve more than you plan to. If you always procrastinate, it
will someday lead to laziness, and you will not be able to explain
why! Laziness will mature into indecision, all in the name of
flexibility. But indecision is not synonymous to being flexible.
Before you know it, you will find yourself in the same shoes you
are trying to run away from, ending up a third cla.s.s personality
in life.
In order to avoid this, always do what you have to do, when you
have to do it, and the way you have to do it, so as to get what you
have to get, when you should get it.
IMPATIENCE
Another similar problem to procrastination, which students who
failed out of school always have is impatience.
Dreams crash daily on the rock of impatience. Once they have
decided on what to do, they really do not give it time to mature
naturally into something worthwhile. They feel they have lost so
much time and so want to make up for the time they have lost,
either as a student on campus, or as an indecisive third-cla.s.s
graduate.
As much as you should not postpone actions on your dream, you
also should be willing to give your dream the needed time to
develop. You must learn to create a balance between postponing
your ideas until an unreasonable time and being impatient about
your dreams.
So many people lose active interest in their dream if it takes so
much time to get fulfilled. We are in the Jet age - an age where so
many people do not want to labor for so long before they get
rewards. They want to sow in the morning and reap in the
evening of the same day, and they become impatient and easily
discouraged when things do not work out their way.
Impatience makes people quit too soon. It has made so many turn
back when they are already at the edge of hitting the mark. Do
not be injected with it. Be ready to stick with your dream until
you see its glorious end. Nothing can be more rewarding.
FINANCIAL PROBLEMS
Another great challenge you likely will face is unavailability of
funds to bring your dreams to reality. Every avenue through
which you are likely to receive financial aid may just be blocked.
Even those who believe so much in the dream may not want to
part with their money to see the dreams fulfilled.
This may lead you to begin to nurse the thought that the reason
why others do not want to invest in you and your dream is
because you did not graduate with a first-cla.s.s, or that it is
probably not a G.o.d-given dream, convincing you that if it was
from G.o.d, it would have been a lot easier raising the needed fund
to sponsor it.
All of these are not true. The fact that a dream is from G.o.d does
not mean all will go rosy at the beginning. This lack of finance is
a major difficulty that everybody who has ever seen the
fulfillment of their dreams faced at one time or the other in their
journey in life. The experience is not particular to you. Even
those who graduated from school with a first-cla.s.s who ventured
into building their own dreams rather than getting a paid
employment have had to face it.
It comes at three major junctions. It may come at the inception of
the dream to debar you from starting, it may come midway to
hinder you from continuing what has been started, and it may
come just before the final accomplishment so as to hinder you
from successfully completing the project.
To make matters worse, most people conclude that this is the end
of their dreams simply because they have little or no financial
muscles to pull the dreams through. This is not the best solution
to the problem. There are alternative avenues you can still
explore if you indeed are serious about getting this dream
accomplished.
All you need is not money. So, do not abort that dream because
you lack strong financial backing. If you lack financial
resources, you have other resources which, if properly
monitored and rightly channeled, will help in fulfilling your
dream. This will make your lack of finance inconspicuous and
you can still forge ahead with your dream.
Some of these are educational resources, spiritual resources,
natural talents, inborn abilities, friends, your integrity and
influence in the society, and many others like it. Make use of
them. Do not just allow the vision to die simply because you do
not have enough money to carry it through today. There may not
be enough money today, but there will certainly be more than
enough tomorrow.
The G.o.d who brought out money from the mouth of a fish has
not forgotten you, and He will, by supernatural means, provide
more than what you need for your dream to come through. Just
simply do not trust men for your financial resources to be met,
look upon G.o.d. Men may fail you but G.o.d will not.
If the devil sees that your lack of finance does not disturb you
from pursuing your dream, he will attack other areas of your life
just to put weariness into your soul. He may try to make things
seem more difficult; he may attack your health, your business,
your family, your children and even your marriage.
Never mind. Do not be troubled. He is only trying to scare you
away from your dream. He is not the roaring lion which he
claims to be, he is only a barking toothless dog with a roaring lion
mask. He can do you nothing. If he sees you are not troubled, he
will soon leave you for someone else, someone who will get
scared seeing his masked face.
CRITICISM
One of the greatest battles you will have to face is that of what
people will say about you and your dream. Do not expect
everybody you meet to support your dream. All cannot fall in
love with your dream. All cannot celebrate you, especially since
they are aware that you graduated with a third-cla.s.s.
Some of them will be too convinced that the reason why you are
trying to do what you are doing is because this is your last option,
i.e. that you are stranded, since no good company will employ
you and you have no other alternative.
Whether this is true or not, it should not bother you. Life is such
that there will be those who will criticize you and those who will
celebrate you; those who will condemn you and those who will
commend you; those who will encourage you and those who will
discourage you, irrespective of what you do and what you do not.
Dreamers are always objects of criticism. They are often
criticized for their new ideas. So you cannot be exempted.
Anytime you want to rise among others who are comfortably
sitting down and are contented with the situation of things, you
will create hatred for yourself. Each time you desire a change,
you will face opposition. This is because every new dream
generates criticism.
One thing you must know however is that opposition is a proof
of progression. Those going nowhere face no opposition. Thirdcla.s.s
students who have accepted fate and who are making no
serious effort to advance the course of their lives are never
criticized. Men are comfortable around them and pleased with
their cool-headedness. They even appreciate them for knowing
their limits and boundaries, and not trying to be too pushy about
issues.
However, a third cla.s.s graduate who will not accept the status
quo will be criticized for everything he tries to do. The criticism
you will face is a proof that you are making advancements and
this shows that the future of your dream is glorious. No man
criticizes people at the edge of failure; they will rather pity them.
Only those who command attention attract criticism.
Ignore all destructive criticisms. If you are too conscious of what
people say about you, you will never get better. If you devote
your time to what men say about your dream, you are opening up
the dream to too much danger. Once you begin to hear the words
of men, you are likely to stop hearing the words of G.o.d and when
you stop hearing the word of G.o.d about your dream, you put
yourself in a very tight corner.
Deliver yourself from the trap of the opinion of men. Do not
yield to the pressure of public criticism. Run your dream
irrespective of man's opinion. Let your love for your dream
dominate your fear of what others think about it.
Lastly, aside neglecting the criticisms, consciously avoid every
destructive critic you meet. Since you now know they are out to
destroy your G.o.d-given dreams, do not get too close to them.
Severe every possible relations.h.i.+p with them; they are Satanmotivated,
evil-dominated and devil-inspired. Endeavor to
separate yourself from the gatherings of the ones you can avoid.
You may not be able to cut off or avoid all of them. Some of these
people may be so close to you so much so that it is difficult not to
relate with them constantly, but you can decide the way you
relate with them in order to keep your dream alive.
Learn to live with the critics you cannot avoid. Adopt the right
att.i.tude to them. Do not allow your mind to dwell on their
destructive criticisms. Do not give their comments any room in
your heart. Treat their words as unwanted visitors - discard them.
Do not welcome their criticisms, and wisdom demands that you
do not also react violently against these critics, since these are
not just faceless people. They are people you know and will
always have around you, at least for a while. So, apply wisdom.
On the last note, do not waste your time fighting any critic,
whether known or unknown, or trying to defend yourself against
their criticisms. If you fight back to justify yourself, you may
lose, and this may affect your morale negatively. Simply keep
quiet and let peace reign. Time will prove you right.
DREAM KILLERS
These are worse than critics. Critics only innocently point out
faults in your dream, make unpalatable remarks and pa.s.s unfair
judgment about your dreams. But dream killers are out for one
single mission, just as the name implies, to make sure your
dream never materialize by all means.
They are 'PhD holders' in a.s.sa.s.sinating dreams. It might be
disastrous if you allow them get a grip on your dream. They will
downsize and water your dream so much that it will become so
watery that it will even become tasteless and worthless to even
you.
Dream killers may not necessarily be some form of unseen
forces or demonic agents. They are humans who just take special
interest in plotting the downfall of dreams that could change the
future for better.
This is why you should not share your dreams with just anyone.
Be careful who you discuss your goals and aspirations with. Not
everyone wants your success; some really desire that you fail,
and they will not hide it from you. They are really happy that you
failed out of school, although they may not let you know this.
Their ultimate goal is actually to see you fail out-rightly in life,
and they will not rest on their hoa.r.s.e until they see this done. If
you keep discussing your dreams with such, you are a goner.
One sure way to identify a dream killer is this: they will never for
once see anything good in your dream, no matter how bright its
future looks. A critic may be convinced to reasons with you
overtime, either reluctantly or wilfully, but a dream killer never
will.
Everyone who discourages you more than encourage you is a
dream killer. There are many who will come up with thousands
of reasons why you cannot do what you desire to do. They will
try all they can to make you desert that idea. They will paint a
bad picture of the future of the idea; tell you how impossible it is
to accomplish such dream in such an environment, with such
little qualification and without enough a.s.sistance. They will tell
you about the giants in the land, the Red Sea on the way, the wall
of Jericho ahead and the renowned River Jordan. They will
magnify the problems and shut your eyes to the rewards. They
will give you a long list of all those who have tried working on
the same dream or something similar and have failed, but none
of those who succeeded at it.
All they are after is just to get you to surrender the pursuance of
your goal. If they can get you to do this, they have achieved their
ultimate goal. Whatever 'folktale' you are told does not matter to
you much. The Holy Book calls them vain babbling and old
women's fables which you must not give heed to.
Never give their words a thought. The fact that other third-cla.s.s
graduates have failed in the projects some of them embarked on
after school does not mean that you will also fail in yours. After
all, there are records of other third cla.s.s graduates who have
made it, and there are also records of some first-cla.s.s graduates
who have failed in major projects in life.
Others' failure in an event has no place in determining either your
success or your failure in the same. Do not let them use other
third cla.s.s graduates' failure to set the limit for your success in
life. You are a different ent.i.ty, with fresh zeal, new drive, great
pa.s.sion, and clean aspirations. Therefore, shun their negative
opinions, bad reports and evil expectations.
Most of the people who will fight tooth and nail against the
success of your dream are those you least expect, those you think
should be the forerunners, and those from whom you expect to
receive the greatest support. Relax; let this not disturb you.
Whether they support you or not does not really matter as long as
G.o.d supports you.
Every time you consult the wrong person you are sure of getting
the wrong advice. And every time you get a wrong advice it leads
you the wrong way. The farther you go on the wrong direction,
the more difficult it is to make it in life. Therefore, separate
yourself from everybody who does not have a meaningful idea,
suggestion or advice that will take your dream forward.
If you notice that some of the people you trusted most are
beginning to foresee the downfall of your dream in advance and
are already predicting same, it is time to turn away from such
completely. Do not take counsel or advice from them again.
No matter how close you are to them, completely separate
yourself even from your own people who do not want to identify
with your dream lest they become stumbling stones to your
dreams, or thorns that will choke life out of them. You can learn
to live with criticism but you cannot learn to live with dream
killers. For your dream to live, dream killers must leave.
Dream killers discouraged David from going to fight Goliath but
he shunned them. They told Bartholomew the blind man to keep
quiet when he called on Jesus to have mercy on him; he did not
listen to them. The woman with the issue of blood knew them
when she saw them and she avoided them. If you also want to
live a first cla.s.s life with your third cla.s.s result, you will need to
avoid dream killers.
DISTRACTIONS
One major problem of most third-cla.s.s graduate is that many of
them cannot say no to potential diversions.
This was actually what mainly contributed to their failure as a
student in school, the inability to say no to distractions. They had
so many things competing for their time; social functions,
sports, parties, fellows.h.i.+p meetings, tribal meetings, students'
businesses, politics, and the likes, such that they were constantly
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distracted from their academics without knowing it.
Albert Einstein once said 'doing the same thing the same way
over and over again and expecting a different result is the
definition of insanity'. If you must make a first cla.s.s in life, then
you must desist from this action that made you graduate with a
third cla.s.s from school.
Lack of full concentration is the reason why many people are
losing out today. It is commonplace for one to have another
dream while working on the first. The temptation to start on the
new dream is always so great, especially if the first is proving to
be difficult to get through with. However, most times, if
embarked on, this new dream becomes a source of distraction
from the first dream that is almost accomplished but for some
steps.
Vision is better pursued when there are no distractions. Once
there is another vision, there comes a division, and if care is not
taken, the first vision can no longer enjoy the undivided attention
it enjoyed before, slowing down the pace at which it is achieved.
Do not let the devil distract your attention by giving you a new
vision, an entirely different vision from your original dream. So
many people have failed in life because they cannot concentrate
fully on one major idea per time, especially at this starting stage.
Whatever new vision you have must be in line with your first
dream. Joseph had a dream. He had a second one, and he had a
third. But all his dreams were focused on just one thing – to lead
his people. He never considered a different vision. At the end of
the day, he got what he wanted.
You too do not need another dream. If the devil tries to sell one to
you, do not buy. If he succeeds in diverting you away from your
first vision, he has succeeded in destroying your vision with your
permission. Do not cooperate with the devil to destroy your
dream.
Take note of this: Every time the devil gives you a new vision
when you have not fully accomplished the first, it is for a purpose
- to make you neglect the first. So every time you receive a new
dream when you are still working on one presently, whether it is
from G.o.d or from the devil, the best thing to do is to write it
down, pray and plan towards it and do not really commit yourself
fully to it until you have accomplished the one you have at hand.
If it is really from G.o.d, it will stand the test of time.
For the purpose of creating a balance, wisdom demands that if
what you are working on presently is a big dream which will take
a long time to be accomplished, and a smaller dream which will
take a relatively shorter period of time crosses your part, you can
still cope with the two since you will do away with the smaller
one in a very short time after its accomplishment. But this cannot
be done with two major ideas. If the new dream is not willing to
wait, one will have to die for the other to live.
LOW SELF ESTEEM
Many third-cla.s.s graduates, as a result of their past academic
experience, have such a low self esteem of themselves. They do
not believe they can accomplish anything meaningful again, no
matter how small. Some others believe they have the ability to
accomplish the smaller dreams but not the bigger ones.
They do not believe in themselves and their ability and so are
afraid of acting on their dreams. The ghost of their inability to
pa.s.s ordinary final year examination in school haunts them
about so much so that it scares them away from taking every
necessary step to achieve their dreams. They tend to believe
more strongly in the lies concerning them that they are weak
vessels and so cannot accomplish great things.
This is a serious matter, especially among third-cla.s.s graduates.
Many of them are too busy focusing on their inabilities and their
areas of weaknesses that they fail to see their abilities and their
strengths. More of their visions are destroyed through the
thought of incapability than any other weapon. This is a major
stumbling block to third cla.s.s graduates. The world tries to limit
them by making them think they are not capable of successfully
achieving any goals again. It makes them think they are not
qualified enough to undertake such great tasks.
This occurred in the account of almost all the great men recorded
in the Bible. Moses complained of not being eloquent enough,
but he ended up being the greatest leader in his generation. King
Saul ran away on the day of his coronation. King Solomon
complained of being "but a child who does not know how to go
out or come in". Gideon needed so many confirmations from
heaven to convince G.o.d He is making the right choice. All of
them felt incapable at first, but were greatly used at the end.
Do not be discouraged by your past. Do not limit your capability
by your disposition or who you are at the moment. Do not look
down on yourself because of your qualification. The apostles
never went to school but they all fulfilled their ministry. You too
will if you trust Him.
Successful achievement of your dream remains impossible until
you absolutely believe in yourself. You can only become the
dream you believe you can achieve. When you have a low
estimation of yourself, you are giving yourself a pa.s.sport of
failure and a visa of un-fulfilled dream.
Strive to disconnect yourself mentally and emotionally from the
low self esteem socket. If you don't, it will unconsciously affect
every other area of your life, whether you intended it to be or not.
You need a strong and good self image. This is not to say you
should look on yourself as a perfect superhuman ent.i.ty that
needs no amendments or improvements. But do not look down
on yourself because of your weaknesses.
Only a foolish man builds on his weaknesses. Forget about all
your inability, at least for now. Do not look down on yourself or
your dream. You can do it. Place the right value on yourself. Do
not give yourself the license to stay in the cesspit of
impossibility. Get rid of that gra.s.shopper mentality. Your result
in school does not determine your result in life; that you were not
able before now does not mean you will never be able again. You
are well able.
If you appreciate yourself, you will command appreciation from
others. If you have enough self confidence in yourself, it will
build up other people's confidence in you. It will show through
your carriage, your actions and your words, and these will give
you additional mark and positive reception everywhere you find
yourself.
Believe in yourself. No one else may believe in you, because of
your past record, but you must have a very strong faith in your
own ability, because it is what you believe that will sooner or
later become. Your fate in life is your faith in yourself. Great
pastors, president of nations, corporate CEOs, successful
athletes, all got there because they believed in themselves when
no one else did, and they did what they could before anyone else
believe they could.
You may lose everything, but do not lose faith in yourself. So
many third-cla.s.s students have done seemingly impossible
things. You too can. If others can succeed with their dreams, you
also can. Do not doubt your strength; believe in His ability, that
G.o.d is able to make you capable.
What you think about yourself matters more than what others
think of you. Think of yourself based on what G.o.d says you are
in His word. Do not be over-influenced by what other people
think of you or say about you. Do not allow what they say about
you affect your personal opinion of yourself.
What men say about you is what they think about you. Their
opinion about you is often based on wrong motives and wrong
a.s.sessment. What you think about yourself is what you say
about yourself and it is what you say about yourself that counts,
because it is what you will become at last. You know what you
are - a dreamer, a winner, a ruler, and G.o.d see you as such - a
dreamer, a winner and a ruler.
Their conclusion about your life does not really matter as much
as what you believe about yourself. Therefore, only live by what
G.o.d says and not what any man says about you. It is what The
Word says that counts, not what the world says. You are more
encouraged when you see yourself the way G.o.d sees you and
believe you can be what the Bible says you can than when you
admit men's impression about you.
Search through your mind today and flash out every thought that
belittles you. What you think about yourself is G.o.d conclusion
about your matter. Your faith is determined by your thought.
Whatever you lack, He has. Whatever you need is in His bank.
He knows how to make extrordinary achievers from ordinary
men. If you will trust Him, His super ability will come upon your
natural ability and will make you of supernatural ability. Forget
about your weaknesses. When man reaches his inability, G.o.d's
ability starts.
DISCORDS
If the devil fails in all his methods to make the dreamer forsake
his dreams, he attacks the people around him who believe in his
vision and who are a.s.sisting him to fulfill the vision. He sows
discord and hatred in their midst, thereby causing confusions
which may lead to separation. The devil probably learnt the use
of confusion in aborting dreams when, at the tower of Babel,
G.o.d confused the language of the people in order to stop the
greatest project of their time – building a tower that reaches to
heavens.
Remember that, whether you admit it or not, most of those who
are supporting your dream today and working together with you
for its fulfillment have their impression about you, that being a
third-cla.s.s student, there is little or nothing they can expect from
you, especially at this early stage of your dream.
It may even be that the reason some of them are still with you is
because they have no other alternative jobs and not necessarily
because they love you and believe in your dream that much. The
moment they get something that offer a better package than what
you offer them, they will be too willing to part ways with you,
without even minding how you feel about it; you are just a third
cla.s.s graduate!
This should in no way surprise you. Some of them accord you
the workplace respect not because they esteem and admire you
as a boss with good IQ and quality character. They feel you are
only opportune to have richer parents, or better connections than
them. They actually think that if they have the same opportunity
that life has offered you, they will perform far better than you
have. They think they are smarter and more brilliant than you,
though they may not tell you this.
Most of these ones will be on the lookout for any flimsy excuse,
tenable or not, to have a disagreement with you when they are
ready to leave. They want it to look as though you are the bad
guy. You may not have any problem with it, but they actually do
not keep their opinion to themselves. They try to poison the
minds of your most faithful partners/coworkers so as to gain
more pity for themselves when they are ready to leave. This is
where the real issue is.
The ability to handle well every crisis that rises on the path of
fulfillment of your dream will help to guard against the
scattering of your partners, and consequently, the destruction of
your tender dream.
When the devil could not get Paul and Barnabas to forsake their
dream of spreading the gospel among the Gentiles, he brought
disagreement and disunity between them, over an insignificant
issue. This led to the separation of the joint vision of the first
partners in the ministry.
The devil tried on a number of occasions to destroy the dream the
Israelites had of getting to the Promised Land by causing discord
among them. So many times, he caused them to murmur and
revolt against G.o.d, against the leaders.h.i.+p; and against each
other. Each time this happened, it caused them a great deal of
setback.
Every time you sense a spirit of disagreement, confusion,
rebellion, disunity and hatred among your coworkers, instantly
go to G.o.d and ask him for wisdom to tackle it and put things back
into proper shape before it is too late. Do not do it with your
wisdom or experience. It is risky. Unless you have G.o.d's
wisdom, you will mishandle the crisis and may fuel the problem
the more.
ENSLAVEMENT BY THE PAST
In life, it does not matter whether you have failed or succeeded in
the past, what matters is the next step you take. This will
determine whether your success or your failure is going to be
continuous.
Earlier on, we discussed about forgetting your past. This is
because it is very common with the human nature to get easily
discouraged by past failures and easily carried away by past
achievements, thereby causing them to neglect the remaining
part of their dream, or making them to relent in their efforts
unconsciously and slowing down the original pace with which
they started.
The past is a great obstacle to a greater tomorrow. So, do not
make the mistake of letting your yesterday take too much of your
today. Slaves who are in the captivity of the past cannot become
masters of tomorrow. Whoever lives in the past, tarnishes the
present and sacrifices the future.
Enslavement by the past may come in two ways:
(1) Enslavement by Past Failures
(2) Enslavement by Past Successes
ENSLAVEMENT BY PAST FAILURE
The problem the devil places on most third-cla.s.s graduates' path
is their past failures, defeats and disappointments. This, most
times, causes them bitterness and stagnation in life. They would
have given their dreams a trial, but for their past failures.
Do not be discouraged if any of your plans in the past had failed,
your dreams ruined, or your goals aborted. You really desired to
leave school with something better than what you have today.
But there is nothing you can do about that now. What you have in
your certificate is all you have to offer for your past, but it is not
all you have to offer for the future. No matter what your past may
be your future is without stain. Your past may be soiled by
mistakes but your future is spotless.
There is a way to deal with failure which most people do not
know, and this is why they always feel it is the worst thing to
happen to a man. Once you fail, the next thing to do is not to start
regretting your actions, a.n.a.lyze the reason for the failure. Find
out why you failed in the first place.
Explore the failure. Do not waste it. What were you supposed to
do that you did not do? What were you not supposed to do that
you did? Why did you fail the examination? Why did you fail the
interview? Why did you lose the opportunity? Why were you not
as lucky as others? The answers to these questions will help you
to be better prepared for the next trial at success.
Never use failure as an excuse for not trying again. The mistakes
and the lessons of the past can be woven into the fabrics of your
personality and used to clothe and equip you for the future if you
really desire to live a better life. They will teach you how not to
go about a thing. Be ready to put those failures behind you and
try again. Use the past as a stepping - stone into greater successes
and not a pa.s.sage into more failures.
On a final note: Never feign success. There is nothing very
special about making mistakes or failing once in a while in life.
Honestly face the defeat: No man ever succeeded who never
once failed. Everybody makes mistake. So, why quit because of
a mistake? Your mistakes can be corrected if you keep on, learn
all you can from your failure, make the necessary corrections,
discover your loopholes, fill them up and proceed again.
The past failures will not determine your future success as much
as your present actions. So, do not let your past failure weigh you
down unnecessarily, it will crumble your dream. Do not let the
hurt of the past be an excuse for aborting that great dream. Do not
lose your enthusiasms and zeal because of the failure. The past is
past, put it behind you and forget about it. Your reaction to this
failure will determine whether you will still succeed again or fail
the more.
Burry it and do not exhume it again. Failure does not equal defeat
unless you stop trying. If you allow the thought of the past to take
control of your life, it will create in you the fear of failure which
will hinder you from trying.
Stop looking mournfully into the past. The past is past. It returns
no more. Spend more time improving the present, thereby
investing in your future. You may not have a bright past but you
have a more glorious future. New victories can come out of
temporary defeats if you will care to overlook the past.
Setbacks, as it is commonly said, make room for comebacks.
Rise up and try again. G.o.d is willing this time around to make
you succeed, but it all depends on what you do today. You cannot
change your yesterday but you can change your tomorrow by
what you do today. You cannot change your past failures but you
can allow them to influence tomorrow's success either
positively or negatively.
The devil knows how colorful and bright your future is, so he
will try to stop you from going forward by constantly bringing to
your memory these past failures. Do not encourage him by
accepting his vision. Every man fails, but dreamers do not
tabernacle in their failures. They bounce back up and begin
again. So, rise up, and prove to yourself and all around you that
you are indeed an achiever in the making.
ENSLAVEMENT BY PAST SUCCESS
Past successes are big enough obstacle as past failures. Your
success in a small part of your dream must not be allowed to
become a hindrance to the totality of your dream. It must not
blind-fold you to a glorious tomorrow.
The greatest enemy of the best, they say, is the good. You will
have to give up something good if you want something better.
Do not let the good old days hinder you from moving into the
better new days ahead. Do not be satisfied with the good or the
better. Go for the best. Do not be deterred by past achievements;
be spurred to greater achievements by past records. Let it not be
the trap that will keep you glued to one spot.
Do not be thoroughly satisfied with that little success. If you do,
you are a failure in the making. That you have succeeded in the
first few steps toward guaranteeing you live a first cla.s.s life
despite your third cla.s.s degree does not automatically guarantee
your success all through if you relax.
Stop looking at what you have accomplished and start looking at
what more you can still accomplish, you will see there is still
more grounds to cover. The reason you did not see them earlier is
because you are not on the lookout for them. What can still be
achieved is far much more than what has been achieved.
The reason most preferred their past to the present is because
they have not seen the future. Stop looking at where you have
been and start looking at where you can be. There is still a great
future ahead of you. If you are not aware, your future is glorious;
and a glorious future is better than a glorious past.
If you allow your past to be master over your present, your future
would eventually be buried in the archives of life. Break fresh
grounds. Leave the old dust whatever it might have been,
glorious or inglorious.
Past glories or apparent past failures must propel you to take
more steps forward. If you have failed in the past, that does not
mark the end of the game. You, can still succeed if you give it
another trial. If you have succeeded at the last attempt, that is not
the height of it all, there are still greater successes ahead of you.
So, do not be satisfied with the last achievement. You can't live in
your yesterday and expect to be of value today. When you stick to
your past, you will pa.s.s away with the past. Magnifying your
past diminishes your success, but diminis.h.i.+ng your past
magnifies your success.
DISCOURAGEMENT
Lastly, beware of discouragements. This is because enough
things to discourage you will come before the fulfillment of your
dream. People who get easily discouraged do not always achieve
their dreams.
Discouragement can come as a result of any of the abovementioned
reasons. It may be as a result of poisons from dream
killers, inability to trust one's ability, problems and difficulties
on the way, weariness and boredom, financial problems, discord
among partners and the likes. Whatever happens, if you really
desire to fulfill your dream, do not look at the circ.u.mstances you
are facing, do not be discouraged; press forward.
Discouragements arise both to defeat the dreamer and destroy
his dream. They drain out the energy of the dreamer and paralyze
the dream. The power of discouragement poisons the soul and
weakens the will, but the power of encouragement is the
lifeblood of success.
The devil will try to discourage you. He will use all his tricks and
try all his best, but you will do yourself enough good to avoid
every temptation to get discouraged. Everyone is tempted like
you are, but not everyone yields to the temptation.
Everyone has one form of limitation or the other. It could be
limited education, poor family background, stories of
disappointments from men thought reliable, bad economy,
financial constraints or other factors beyond their control; but
they still succeeded. So you also can, with all these limitations,
succeed. Forget about problems, they will surely come, but they
will surely not overcome if you handle them wisely.
If your dream is dead, destroyed or stolen away, pray that G.o.d
revive, remold and restore it. Ask His miracle anointing to touch
your dead dream and breathe a new lease of life into them so they
can live again.
IN CONCLUSION
If you take your time to study the lives of those who have crossed
from being a third-cla.s.s student in school to being a first-cla.s.s
student in life, (and there are so many of them that time and
s.p.a.ce will not allow their names to be mentioned and their
stories told in this book, that would be another volume on its
own), you will discover that there is a common trend of how they
overcame their poor start.
They started when no one believed in them, not even their family
members, overcame all the problems, challenges, distractions
and discouragements on their paths, released themselves from
the grip of their past, and were patient enough to allow their
dream of living a first cla.s.s life get to maturity. Most of them are
now the talk of the town. If these people can make this happen
then anyone can, including you.