Searchlights on Health: Light on Dark Corners Part 8

_12. A gentleman walking with a lady should carry the parcels, and never allow the lady to be burdened with anything of the kind._

_13. A gentleman meeting a lady on the street and wis.h.i.+ng to speak to her, should never detain her, but may turn around and walk in the same direction she is going, until the conversation is completed._

_14. If a lady is traveling with a gentleman, simply as a friend, she should place the amount of her expenses in his hands, or insist on paying the bills herself._

_15. Never offer a lady costly gifts unless you are engaged to her, for it looks as if you were trying to purchase her goodwill; and when you make a present to a lady use no ceremony whatever._

[Ill.u.s.tration: Children should early be taught the lesson of Propriety and Good Manners.]

_16. Never carry on a private conversation in company. If secrecy is necessary, withdraw from the company._

_17. Never sit with your back to another without asking to be excused._

_18. It is as unbecoming for a gentleman to sit with legs crossed as it is for a lady._

_19. Never thrum with your fingers, rub your hands, yawn, or sigh aloud in company._

_20. Loud laughter, loud talking, or other boisterous manifestations should be checked in the society of others, especially on the street and in public places._ {54}

_21. When you are asked to sing or play in company, do so without being urged, or refuse in a way that shall be final; and when music is being rendered in company, show politeness to the musician by giving attention.

It is very impolite to keep up a conversation. If you do not enjoy the music, keep silent._

_22. Contentions, contradictions, etc., in society should be carefully avoided._

_23. Pulling out your watch in company, unless asked the time of day, is a mark of the demi-bred. It looks as if you were tired of the company and the time dragged heavily._

_24. You should never decline to be introduced to any one or all of the guests present at a party to which you have been invited._

_25. A gentleman who escorts a lady to a party, or who has a lady placed under his care, is under particular obligations to attend to her wants and see that she has proper attention. He should introduce her to others, and endeavor to make the evening pleasant. He should escort her to the supper table and provide for her wants._

_26. To take small children or dogs with you on a visit of ceremony is altogether vulgar, though in visiting familiar friends, children are not objectionable._

{55} [Ill.u.s.tration: AN EGYPTIAN BRIDE'S WEDDING OUTFIT.]

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ETIQUETTE OF CALLS.

[Ill.u.s.tration]

In the matter of making calls it is the correct thing:

For the caller who arrived first to leave first.

To return a first call within a week and in person.

To call promptly and in person after a first invitation.

For the mother or chaperon to invite a gentleman to call.

To call within a week after any entertainment to which one has been invited.

You should call upon an acquaintance who has recently returned from a prolonged absence.

It is proper to make the first call upon people in a higher social position, if one is asked to do so.

It is proper to call, after an engagement has been announced, or a marriage has taken place, in the family.

For the older residents in the city or street to call upon the newcomers to their neighborhood is a long recognized custom.

It is proper, after a removal from one part of the city to another, to send out cards with one's new address upon them.

To ascertain what are the prescribed hours for calling in the place where one is living, or making a visit, and to adhere to those hours is a duty that must not be overlooked.

A gentleman should ask for the lady of the house as well as the young ladies, and leave cards for her as well as for the head of the family. {57}

[Ill.u.s.tration: _Improve Your Speech by Reading._]

ETIQUETTE IN YOUR SPEECH.

Don't say Miss or Mister without the person's name.

Don't say pants for trousers.

Don't say gents for gentlemen.

Don't say female for woman.

Don't say elegant to mean everything that pleases you.

Don't say genteel for well-bred.

Don't say ain't for isn't.

Don't say I done it for I did it.

Don't say he is older than me; say older than I.

Don't say she does not see any; say she does not see at all.

Don't say not as I know; say not that I know.

Don't say he calculates to get off; say he expects to get off.